Fabienne Fredrickson is a coach for coaches. She teaches business training. While I've not experienced her training first hand I do enjoy her videos and news. This is something she wrote recently that I thought was really marvelous. What's your mindset?
The difference between people who achieve what they want and those who don’t just comes down to whether they get in their own way or not.
I know, duh. But for many years, I was a fraud in my business and my life.
I was the poster child for self-sabotage. And I blamed everyone and everything else for my lack of results.
Here’s my deep dark little secret:
Even though I put on a nice façade for everyone for many years in my business, here’s what was really going on:
I used to believe that I wasn’t good enough to be successful
I didn’t have faith in myself (or much of anything, to be truthful)
I used to be gripped by fear(s), often daily
I approached life from a lack perspective
I didn’t finish what I started
I lacked boundaries
I was distracted by bright shiny objects (squirrel!)
I made important life decisions from a Victim perspective
I was resentful and jealous of other people
I didn’t feel like I deserved more in my life
Basically, on the inside, I had a huge lack of self-confidence.
I just felt totally inadequate for a lot of my life.
Sooooo, when a really good opportunity came along, personally or professionally, I would talk myself out of it and wouldn’t take it, even though I knew it would take me to where I ultimately wanted to be.
Pretty shocking actually. I mean, I knew I was smart. I knew I was a good person, but this was self-sabotage at its fullest and couldn’t seem to stop it.
Until one day.
I decided to make a commitment to upgrade my mindset.
It didn’t just land in my lap. I mean, you can’t do your own mindset work. If you could have, you would have, right??
No, I had to make a decision and say yes to an opportunity to transform my mindset and stop getting in my own way.
And so I did. I signed up to do mindset work and within 9 months, I tripled my income in one year. And then multiplied that.
And now…
I have new beliefs and convictions that I am here for really big things
I think waaaaayyy bigger (and my students pay me for that)
I understand the universal, spiritual principles that govern all of life
I play this game of life, not haphazardly, but according to the instructions
I have simple processes that are very powerful for getting past fear
I continually overcome blocks that get in the way
I’ve increased my wealth consciousness (and my results, because of it)
I have a Victor’s mentality now
I am not afraid of the unknown
I stand up for what I want in my life
I am intentional, I am focused, I am disciplined
I believe in myself and my capabilities
I am no longer self-sabotaging my way through life
I say yes to the opportunities that will give me what I ultimately want
I have given myself permission to play a much, much bigger game in life
And, as I mentioned, I have the results to show for it.
It really is THAT simple. (Hand slapping forehead.)
The difference between people who achieve what they want and those who don’t just comes down to whether they get in their own way or not.
I know, duh. But for many years, I was a fraud in my business and my life.
I was the poster child for self-sabotage. And I blamed everyone and everything else for my lack of results.
Here’s my deep dark little secret:
Even though I put on a nice façade for everyone for many years in my business, here’s what was really going on:
I used to believe that I wasn’t good enough to be successful
I didn’t have faith in myself (or much of anything, to be truthful)
I used to be gripped by fear(s), often daily
I approached life from a lack perspective
I didn’t finish what I started
I lacked boundaries
I was distracted by bright shiny objects (squirrel!)
I made important life decisions from a Victim perspective
I was resentful and jealous of other people
I didn’t feel like I deserved more in my life
Basically, on the inside, I had a huge lack of self-confidence.
I just felt totally inadequate for a lot of my life.
Sooooo, when a really good opportunity came along, personally or professionally, I would talk myself out of it and wouldn’t take it, even though I knew it would take me to where I ultimately wanted to be.
Pretty shocking actually. I mean, I knew I was smart. I knew I was a good person, but this was self-sabotage at its fullest and couldn’t seem to stop it.
Until one day.
I decided to make a commitment to upgrade my mindset.
It didn’t just land in my lap. I mean, you can’t do your own mindset work. If you could have, you would have, right??
No, I had to make a decision and say yes to an opportunity to transform my mindset and stop getting in my own way.
And so I did. I signed up to do mindset work and within 9 months, I tripled my income in one year. And then multiplied that.
And now…
I have new beliefs and convictions that I am here for really big things
I think waaaaayyy bigger (and my students pay me for that)
I understand the universal, spiritual principles that govern all of life
I play this game of life, not haphazardly, but according to the instructions
I have simple processes that are very powerful for getting past fear
I continually overcome blocks that get in the way
I’ve increased my wealth consciousness (and my results, because of it)
I have a Victor’s mentality now
I am not afraid of the unknown
I stand up for what I want in my life
I am intentional, I am focused, I am disciplined
I believe in myself and my capabilities
I am no longer self-sabotaging my way through life
I say yes to the opportunities that will give me what I ultimately want
I have given myself permission to play a much, much bigger game in life
And, as I mentioned, I have the results to show for it.
It really is THAT simple. (Hand slapping forehead.)